I have been working on this little special project for days and hours and hours now. My back hurts, my legs are numb, my hands are sticky from all the pasting... getting a nice good sleep would be the best thing to do right about now. BUT NO. I shall persevere because I have procrastinated on this project for much too long and as my undying love is my witness, I shall finish it by tomorrow!
Labors of love are tough yet rewarding. I know it's the little things we do every day that really matter. But I also think the BIG SPECIAL THINGS we do count for a lot as well.
I am quite cryptic as of the moment. In a few days, I shall enlighten. In the meantime, it's back to being a busy bee. That's me!
Love, Oli :)
Saturday, May 29, 2010
Wednesday, May 26, 2010
A Lesson on Affection
Had a great girl day today with the fabulous Viva La Iya a.k.a. Larissa Joson of Letters By Larissa. Am i pimpin' her blog or what?!
Anyway, we got around to talking about almost everything under the sun, from our chosen careers to her exciting Paris JTA to my plans of further studies abroad to relationships and marriage to children to our personal home lives and what have you. I must say, before I go into what I really planned to blog about, I must give it to Ms. Joson. She is going to go places and I don't just mean Paris.
Now, let me get back on track here (before that huge ear to ear smile rips your face in two. yes, Iya, i am talking to you!)
We also got around to talking about our relationships with our parents and my current 'hater' phase. More on the latter in a later blog! Let me first talk about how important parent-child relationships are. I would consider me and Iya living proof of the effects of different parent nurturing styles. It's classic psychology. There are many theories about it and many case studies have been done to prove it. But let me talk from a less scientific and more personal perspective. May I present the cases of Iya and Oli.
Case 1: Iya
Family Background - grew up from a loving and nurturing family; parents show a good amount of affection in the form of hugs, the occasional spoken and written "i love you's", sweet well-written letters from her mom and dad (but mostly from dad), support for her chosen career, jokes from her dad and the like.
Personality Traits (or what can also be termed as the "Crystalized Iya") - may be relatively classified as a social butterfly; has good social skills; can easily develop close intimate relationships; driven, confident, self-motivated and self-assured; goal-oriented; able to freely explore her potentials.
Case 2: Oli
Family Backgroud - grew up from a relatively nurturing family; did not receive much physical affection in the form of hugs or kisses; was not brought up to say "I love you" out loud; love was generally shown through indirect and more practical means (education received, material things, and other less concrete ways, which she nonetheless appreciates and understands to be a show of love
Personality Traits (or what can also be termed as the "Crystalized Oli") - may be relatively classified as an introvert; still struggles, though has, in a few cases, succeeded in establishing close intimate relationships; does not generally show or feel comfortable with showing affection (except to a few select relations); is relatively driven, confident, goal-oriented and self-motivated but has a tendency to second guess herself, be indecisive and insecure;
These case descriptions are NOT scientific by all means. I must admit, they are quite one-sided and biased towards proving a point.
The effects of different types of parenting on children is undeniable, which is why I believe parenting is a great big responsibility that goes way beyond providing material security to a child. Though they are vital and absolutely necessary to raise a child, parenting is more than giving children food to eat, clothes to wear, a good education, toys and the like. It is also, more importantly, the love and affection that you give them. Yes, love is manifested through working hard and providing your children with their wants and needs, but that representation is not concrete enough for a young child to grasp. A child cannot understand that you cannot play with them after school because you are too busy working hard to give them a good life! Children need warmth and affection to feel loved. In fact, in the very real context of our lives, people in general need warmth and affection. We need to be hugged, to be held by someone we trust, to be touched, to be kissed, to be told "I love you" at least once in a while... to be shown, that we are, in fact, loved (I know I'm so redundant! But I'm making a point here!). That is a reality of life and a responsibility that I strongly believe parents should never ever neglect if they want their children to grow up to be individuals who are capable of sharing and receiving love.
I could so become a good child psychologist one day! Whatcha think? HAHA!
So I say, go out and hug those you love! Kiss those whom you can appropriately kiss! SHOW someone in a very real sense that you love them! I struggle to find it in myself to show that kind of affection to the people I love everyday! But I vow to slowly be that person for them and even to my future child! I swear, that kid is going to get all the warmth and affection a future cool mom can offer!
Okay, I promise to blog about something lighter and shorter next time! HAHA! Am i the only one finding this funny? Yea. Thought so.
Love, Oli :)
Anyway, we got around to talking about almost everything under the sun, from our chosen careers to her exciting Paris JTA to my plans of further studies abroad to relationships and marriage to children to our personal home lives and what have you. I must say, before I go into what I really planned to blog about, I must give it to Ms. Joson. She is going to go places and I don't just mean Paris.
Now, let me get back on track here (before that huge ear to ear smile rips your face in two. yes, Iya, i am talking to you!)
We also got around to talking about our relationships with our parents and my current 'hater' phase. More on the latter in a later blog! Let me first talk about how important parent-child relationships are. I would consider me and Iya living proof of the effects of different parent nurturing styles. It's classic psychology. There are many theories about it and many case studies have been done to prove it. But let me talk from a less scientific and more personal perspective. May I present the cases of Iya and Oli.
Case 1: Iya
Family Background - grew up from a loving and nurturing family; parents show a good amount of affection in the form of hugs, the occasional spoken and written "i love you's", sweet well-written letters from her mom and dad (but mostly from dad), support for her chosen career, jokes from her dad and the like.
Personality Traits (or what can also be termed as the "Crystalized Iya") - may be relatively classified as a social butterfly; has good social skills; can easily develop close intimate relationships; driven, confident, self-motivated and self-assured; goal-oriented; able to freely explore her potentials.
Case 2: Oli
Family Backgroud - grew up from a relatively nurturing family; did not receive much physical affection in the form of hugs or kisses; was not brought up to say "I love you" out loud; love was generally shown through indirect and more practical means (education received, material things, and other less concrete ways, which she nonetheless appreciates and understands to be a show of love
Personality Traits (or what can also be termed as the "Crystalized Oli") - may be relatively classified as an introvert; still struggles, though has, in a few cases, succeeded in establishing close intimate relationships; does not generally show or feel comfortable with showing affection (except to a few select relations); is relatively driven, confident, goal-oriented and self-motivated but has a tendency to second guess herself, be indecisive and insecure;
These case descriptions are NOT scientific by all means. I must admit, they are quite one-sided and biased towards proving a point.
The effects of different types of parenting on children is undeniable, which is why I believe parenting is a great big responsibility that goes way beyond providing material security to a child. Though they are vital and absolutely necessary to raise a child, parenting is more than giving children food to eat, clothes to wear, a good education, toys and the like. It is also, more importantly, the love and affection that you give them. Yes, love is manifested through working hard and providing your children with their wants and needs, but that representation is not concrete enough for a young child to grasp. A child cannot understand that you cannot play with them after school because you are too busy working hard to give them a good life! Children need warmth and affection to feel loved. In fact, in the very real context of our lives, people in general need warmth and affection. We need to be hugged, to be held by someone we trust, to be touched, to be kissed, to be told "I love you" at least once in a while... to be shown, that we are, in fact, loved (I know I'm so redundant! But I'm making a point here!). That is a reality of life and a responsibility that I strongly believe parents should never ever neglect if they want their children to grow up to be individuals who are capable of sharing and receiving love.
I could so become a good child psychologist one day! Whatcha think? HAHA!
So I say, go out and hug those you love! Kiss those whom you can appropriately kiss! SHOW someone in a very real sense that you love them! I struggle to find it in myself to show that kind of affection to the people I love everyday! But I vow to slowly be that person for them and even to my future child! I swear, that kid is going to get all the warmth and affection a future cool mom can offer!
Okay, I promise to blog about something lighter and shorter next time! HAHA! Am i the only one finding this funny? Yea. Thought so.
Love, Oli :)
Monday, May 24, 2010
Bum? Who's the bum?
Let's face it.
... Okay, you don't have to face it so I'LL face it. A huge part of the reason why I made this blog was because I was feeling like a colossal BUM. That's with a capital B-U-M.
As of the moment, I am still a bona fide member of the unemployed work force and will only officially become a contributing member of society this August... which is still TWO WHOLE MONTHS from now. That means I have TWO WHOLE MONTHS of doing absolutely NOTHING. Or if I were to look at it from a more positive perspective, that's TWO WHOLE MONTHS of doing positively EVERYTHING.
I could go out, catch up with friends, go on trips! THE SKY'S THE LIMIT, RIGHT?
Wrong.
Here are a 2 very potent reasons why the sky is NOT the limit for a currently unemployed, free as a bird girl:
ONE: All my friends are busy with their own stuff! Some are working already. Some are preparing for graduate school or board exams. Some (a.k.a. my best friend) have summer jobs that keep them positively ocupado. MOST of them have a lot of other things that are either keeping them busy or tired! I am quite sure this will get worse once June comes rolling in. Start of classes... ugh.
TWO (and most important of all): Lack of Funds. No School + No Work = No Money. No hard earned money trickling in and no easy money being handed to you by your parents. Actually, I am quite lucky because my mom still gives me money and still gases up my car. But how shameful is that when you're supposedly at a stage where you should be going out and earning your own money right? And even if I had the thickest skin in the world to continue asking for money from my parents, it still wouldn't be enough to finance my sky's-the-limit-plans!
As a result of today's bumming, I ended up with a new blog (a.k.a. Sunshine Diaries a.k.a. THIS ONE), 2 whole blog entries, half a bag of doritos in my tummy, 0.0001% brain deterioration and a bed full of clothes...
Why the bed full of clothes? Well, let's just say I refuse to be the unproductive little bummer dog I have been all day. So I decided to fix my closet and rid it of clothes that I will never wear anymore! It feels GREAT doing something! I used to think that I was a natural born bum. But after weeks and weeks of sitting around at home with absolutely nothing to do, I have discovered and decided that I am not. A bum, that is.
And being the enthusiastic new Bloggirl that I am, I also decided to blog about this awfully nice realization before getting back to work.
... Okay, you don't have to face it so I'LL face it. A huge part of the reason why I made this blog was because I was feeling like a colossal BUM. That's with a capital B-U-M.
As of the moment, I am still a bona fide member of the unemployed work force and will only officially become a contributing member of society this August... which is still TWO WHOLE MONTHS from now. That means I have TWO WHOLE MONTHS of doing absolutely NOTHING. Or if I were to look at it from a more positive perspective, that's TWO WHOLE MONTHS of doing positively EVERYTHING.
I could go out, catch up with friends, go on trips! THE SKY'S THE LIMIT, RIGHT?
Wrong.
Here are a 2 very potent reasons why the sky is NOT the limit for a currently unemployed, free as a bird girl:
ONE: All my friends are busy with their own stuff! Some are working already. Some are preparing for graduate school or board exams. Some (a.k.a. my best friend) have summer jobs that keep them positively ocupado. MOST of them have a lot of other things that are either keeping them busy or tired! I am quite sure this will get worse once June comes rolling in. Start of classes... ugh.
TWO (and most important of all): Lack of Funds. No School + No Work = No Money. No hard earned money trickling in and no easy money being handed to you by your parents. Actually, I am quite lucky because my mom still gives me money and still gases up my car. But how shameful is that when you're supposedly at a stage where you should be going out and earning your own money right? And even if I had the thickest skin in the world to continue asking for money from my parents, it still wouldn't be enough to finance my sky's-the-limit-plans!
As a result of today's bumming, I ended up with a new blog (a.k.a. Sunshine Diaries a.k.a. THIS ONE), 2 whole blog entries, half a bag of doritos in my tummy, 0.0001% brain deterioration and a bed full of clothes...
Why the bed full of clothes? Well, let's just say I refuse to be the unproductive little bummer dog I have been all day. So I decided to fix my closet and rid it of clothes that I will never wear anymore! It feels GREAT doing something! I used to think that I was a natural born bum. But after weeks and weeks of sitting around at home with absolutely nothing to do, I have discovered and decided that I am not. A bum, that is.
And being the enthusiastic new Bloggirl that I am, I also decided to blog about this awfully nice realization before getting back to work.
Sunday, May 23, 2010
Good morning, Sunshine!
HELLO BLOGOSPHERE!
There is a new 'bloggirl' in town!
You like my term? BLOGGIRL = blogger + girl! Hehehe! Right, i know i know. It's corny. I'm trying to get into the blogger lingo here! They still do call it Blogosphere, right? Or has some witty writer changed it up again? Do bloggers even have a lingo?
Anyway, forgive this newbie! I've been meaning to make a blog for years now but only got around to doing so recently due to my confrontation with the new and exciting life of unemployment! Also, because I couldn't really figure out what it is I wanna be blogging about. Okay.. this is not actually true considering i have about a hundred or so blog entries in my multiply account. But that's not really a blog BLOG. THIS is a blog BLOG.
Some people make fashion blogs, some make musical theater blogs or photoblogs or travelogs or whatever other themed blogs there are out there (ex. Chasing Toff). Some are celebrity bloggers (so people actually wanna read their blogs). Some people like the previously mentioned type of bloggers have super exciting and interesting lives that it would be a shame not to blog about them (like the idol of my life, Patty Laurel). While some blogs belong to people who can write like nobody's business (ex. Iya Joson of Letters By Larissa).
Then there are people like me who aren't necessarily extraordinary writers, are not celebrities, don't feel like writing about anything in particular, are not as well travelled as they'd like to be and have moderately exciting yet blessed lives, BUT possess just as much desire to blog as the previously mentioned types of bloggers do.
What do we average run of the mill bloggirls write about?
Rephrase: What do I write about?
Luckily, I don't actually have a deadline to come up with something nice and interesting right now. Come to think of it, I don't even have to come up with anything particularly nice and interesting at all! Then again, i wouldn't want to be the big SNORE in the cyber journal writers' world! I think, for now, the safer thing to do is leave this question WIDE OPEN.
In the meantime, I shall be looking forward to a nice fruitful relationship with you my Sunshine Diary! (that includes all you innocent blog surfers who may stumble upon my little online oasis. you wouldn't know what hit you!)
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